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"The truth is that the only time we ever seriously "fail" at anything at all in our life is when we mistakenly stroll away from it ahead of we've allowed it to educate us its secret ways." Harmony of Life
How do we normally develop a new skill? For example, how do we study to high jump? We listen to instruction, and perhaps we watch another person else but for the most element, we master by performing by trying it ourselves. Typically, with our very first attempts we finish up crashing into rather than clearing the bar, and when we do, there's no denying it. We can see, and really feel, that we've come up quick. Our collapsed condition tells us, unmistakably, that we've performed one thing wrong. So now, we attempt a new angle of approaching the bar, or a new strategy of leaving the ground. We do this above and over. And each time we fail to hit the mark, we see we've produced a mistake and we alter our behavior, understanding that at some point our self-correction will lift us to the success we want.
These elementary but precise laws of finding out are the very same when it comes to our psychological and spiritual advancement. Every time we really feel an emotional discomfort, we should really use that as a signal that we've created a mistake, that we've crashed and now have to have to come across and try out an additional new way. For example, our presently pained position is the proof that our previous responses to individual crises are inadequate to clear the barriers we nonetheless are crashing into -- that we not only need to have a new way to meet lifestyle, but that our old ways just don't work. The problem for most of us is that we seldom allow ourselves to study in this way. We have hundreds of experiences each and every day in which our expectations crash into reality. Whenever this occurs, we have a near encounter of the truthful sort, mainly because in that exact same moment of trial we see for an instant that we definitely don't know what to do. These tiny and significant self-crashes in themselves are not a dilemma. They are, in a way, the college of lifestyle. The problem is that we won't admit we don't know what to do. We don't use the event to learn a new response. Rather, we turn out to be defensive and return to the identical mindset that led to our most recent collision. We inform ourselves we realize the lead to of obtaining hurt, and that we know what or whom to blame. And the moment we've assessed fault by way of this unseen faulty approach, then we know what to do. Some self pops up and tells us to "act content," "eat anything," "contact a pal," "assume about it." But none of these responses has ever produced us improved equipped to take care of the next crisis. We persist in our belief that we know what to do, and instead of attempting some thing distinctive, we just return to the familiar route.
Until finally we realize in which the genuine bring about of our unhappiness lies, we can in no way be satisfied. As extended as our preconceived notions about life run into the reality of it we will continue to really feel like we're on the losing side, and given that we do not study from the crash, the practice continues. We feel that our lives are out of manage, and they are.
We commence learning from lifestyle when we stop blaming reality, and accept that it was our lack of understanding that created the perceived difficulty. Our sincere want to study can not fail to attract the healing truth we wish, which can then become a component of us and act by means of us. This can only transpire by means of our very own self-function. No one particular can tell us the truth, for then it would not come to be a element of our personal nature. We have to test our beliefs and question our responses for ourselves. When we commence to realize the truth about reality, and our personal spot in it (due to the fact we have essentially entered into it for ourselves), that truth, along with all its energy, becomes our personal.
